Let’s Destroy the Narcissists Baby

Now, I know what you’re thinking—“Ugh, that sounds heavy!” But here’s the thing: understanding these ‘energy vampires’ is the first step to reclaiming your own magic and power back. I’ve had my own run-ins with these types, and let me tell you, they are like cosmic glitches in our personal peace!

They are naturally drawn to the bright, beautiful light of empaths like us. It’s the classic Empath-Narcissist loop: we want to heal and give, and they want to take and be fueled. It’s an exhausting cycle that can leave you feeling like a shell of yourself. They are incredibly talented at spotting empaths and injecting us with deep self-doubt. They try their absolute best to disconnect you from your intuition because that is where your true power lies!

A healthy, balanced relationship with your own inner voice deeply threatens them, so they use that doubt to keep you trapped. But here is the secret: the moment you consciously decide to deepen your relationship with your intuition, the power dynamics begin to shift.

You can begin reclaiming your power and shifting your reality by making the conscious choice to value your own inner truth over their myriad attacks. Choose to begin trusting yourself. Know it won’t be easy and won’t heal overnight—it is about the journey, not the destination, my gorgeous souls. My beautiful, gifted empaths, just choose yourself and your sixth sense—your powerful intuition—and let the Universe and the Gods hold and guide you. 🦉🪷🌀

Have you ever felt like your Third Eye was trying to tell you something, but you just couldn’t quite put your finger on it? As empaths, we are naturally tuned into the energy of others. We feel their joy, their pain, and their deepest desires. But sometimes, that sensitivity can be used against us, especially by those who don’t have our best interests at heart.

What exactly is an Energy Vampire (Narcissist)

At their core, a narcissist is someone who lacks true empathy and requires a constant “feed” of attention and control to sustain their own fragile ego. They use ‘love bombing’ to draw you in and get you hooked. But once they feel they have you—think of a spider trapping its prey in a sticky web—you’ll notice massive, chilling changes. Verbal, mental, and emotional abuse are all tactics they employ to keep you off-balance.

Notice how often they bully you or try to ‘diagnose’ and label your mental health. It’s all projection! They often try to seem ‘well-educated’—and I use that word lightly—using psychological jargon as a weapon to dim your light and clip your wings. Have you noticed how often they try to clip your wings? They always want you to be ‘less than’ they are.

Think about your conversations: Do you feel pressured to overshare everything, only for them to shut down your ideas or overanalyze your soul? This is how they stay in control—by making you feel like a patient instead of a partner, friend, etc. 👁️✨

How to Spot an Energy Vampire (The Red Flags)

The “What the F*ck Just Happened?” Fog: Do you ever leave a conversation feeling dazed and confused, thinking, “What the f*ck just happened!?” That fuzzy, scrambled feeling in your brain is your intuition screaming that you’ve just been through a cosmic glitch.
Broken Promises: Their words can be beautiful, but their actions are empty. They rarely keep their word or follow through on promises.
The Energy Drain: Pay attention to your body! If you feel physically exhausted, shaky, or “dimmed” after talking to them, that is your intuition screaming that an energy vampire is feeding.
The Word Salad: This is a classic tactic where they use a “jumble” of circular logic, random arguments, and confusing psychological jargon to overwhelm you. They aren’t trying to communicate. They are trying to exhaust your mind until you give up and agree with them.
The Script-Flip: They are masters at turning the tables. You’ll go to them with a valid hurt, and somehow, by the end of the conversation, you are the one apologizing to them.
The Blame-Shift: They never take responsibility. Every mistake they make is somehow a reaction to something “you did” first.
The Immediate Attack: It feels unsafe to express your genuine truth. When you do, it’s met with an immediate verbal or emotional strike designed to silence your soul.

🛡️ Reclaiming Your Magic: The Great Ejection

Ultimately, the most powerful protective spell you can cast is to completely cut ties and eject narcissists from your life for good. No matter the title they hold—partner, parent, or friend—your soul’s safety comes first. Your inner child’s safety comes first.

I highly recommend the ‘Clean Break.’ Narcissists do a number on your inner child, and it is your job now to be the fierce protector that little version of you always needed. Once you make that break, No Contact is non-negotiable. No contact whatsoever. No calls, no ‘checking in’ on social media, and no responding to their ‘flying monkeys.’ You are closing the portal to your energy, and you must keep it locked.

However, I also know that sometimes, it’s not possible right away. Sometimes, we aren’t ready yet. I want you to understand that addiction to narcissistic abuse is a real, chemical struggle. It is a trauma bond that takes time to break. Please, honor your pace and be patient with your heart through this process. You are unlearning a lifetime of survival tactics.

✨ Key Healing Tools: Starve the Vampire

‘No’ is a Sacred Circle: ‘No’ is a complete sentence. You don’t owe narcissists an explanation, a debate, or a ‘Word Salad’ session.
The Grey Rock Method: If you can’t go No Contact yet, become as boring as a grey rock. Give them nothing—no emotion, no stories, no reactions. Withdraw your time and energy from the narcissists and pay attention. How are they acting and reacting to not having access to you? What abusive methods are they employing? Pay attention and keep a journal for yourself. Over time, you will see the same patterns very clearly. They will eventually go elsewhere to find a ‘meal.’
Call Your Power Back: Every night, visualize your golden energy returning to your heart center from wherever they tried to scatter it. Say it out loud: ‘I am calling all my power back to me now.’

⚡ Spiritual Shielding: Call Your Power Back

The Runic Shield (Algiz ᛉ & Thurisaz ᚦ):

I highly recommend you use the Runes here, even if you don’t ‘work’ with them yet 😉. Draw Algiz (the elk-sedge) for divine protection and Thurisaz (the thorn) to puncture the narcissist’s illusions. Carry them on a piece of wood, stone, or a piece of paper. I highly recommend you write them down yourself and fuse them with your intentions.

As you draw them, speak your truth:\xa0‘Please show me the narcissists in my life and help me awaken and dismantle all narcissist-empath loops. I am setting firm boundaries. I am protecting myself, my soul, my intuition, and my inner child fiercely. My boundaries are iron; my spirit is sun.‘

Optional Add: Gebo ᚷ
I also recommend adding Gebo (the gift) to the end of your shield. Gebo invites joy and happiness into your space. Adding it creates a set of three runes (an odd number), which is traditionally preferred in Runic work to keep the energy dynamic and flowing.

Invoking the Guardians:
Call upon the Gods of Truth and Protection. Ask Tyr for the courage to stand in your justice, and Freya to shield your heart and your inner child with her falcon cloak and her penetrating infinite wisdom. They do not tolerate the lies of narcissists. Let the Gods hold you through this sacred journey and bless you with their wisdom, protection, and guidance. 🌟

📝 Homework for the Soul 🌠

Set aside some time that feels right for you as ‘me time’—and if it takes longer than you had planned, good! Go with the flow. Spend at least 15 minutes today with your journal. If you don’t have one, no problem. You can use any paper, your phone, or your computer.

Bring a candle, incense, sage, and your favorite tea or beverage. If you’re a wine drinker, I recommend one glass of wine before or during—not more—and sit with it (please do so at your own risk and liability; all suggestions are optional).

I also recommend you offer up the candle or incense. As you light it, say: ‘I am offering this candle or incense to the God Tyr and Goddess Freya. Please guide me through this Homework for the Soul and illuminate my path.’

Answer these questions for yourself and be brutally honest:

The ‘What the F*ck’ Moment: Looking back, when was the first time your Third Eye tried to warn you about a narcissist? What did that physical sensation feel like in your body? Where in your body did you feel it? If unsure, take 3 deep breaths and ask your body to guide you by simply asking: ‘Where did I feel this in my body?’ and the answer will come.
Protecting the Little One: If you saw someone treating a literal child the way this person treats you, what would you do? How can you show that same fierce protection to your own Inner Child today? Are you ready to be for yourself what your inner child has always needed and longed for? It is all within.
The Energy Audit: Who in your life makes you feel ‘dimmed’ or exhausted? Who makes you feel ‘lit up’ and safe? (List them out—the paper doesn’t lie).
The Power Reclaim: Write down one boundary you are ready to set this week. It can be as small as not answering a text immediately. How does it feel to own that ‘No’? Notice very carefully: How was that boundary received? Was it honored? Attacked? Completely overlooked and dismissed? All those are signs and flags your soul needs you to pay attention to.

Remember, You are the sovereign ruler of your own energy. Never let a vampire convince you otherwise. Walk in truth, walk in power, and let your light be your shield.

With fierce love and ancient wisdom,

The Sacred Runes

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